“A good part of it, of course, is the delay in marriage,” said Coontz, who was not involved in the Pew analysis.
These trends ring especially true for those under 35: About 61% of them are “unpartnered,” versus 56% a decade ago. “Unpartnered” people may include couples who live apart, single parents or people who live with their parents.
“In the past, it seems like young adults sprung right into marriage, whether or not they felt financially ready, and then built a life and built financial stability as a couple,” Parker said.
“Now, you find that young adults are waiting until they’ve checked some of the other boxes.”
Single, not ready to mingle
Experts disagree on how much divorce plays a role in the rise of unpartnered adults.
Coontz said it was “a little premature to say” that divorce wasn’t a factor in the rise of unpartnered Americans, but “it’s certainly not the main one.”
Divorce and marriage aren’t equally distributed across all demographics, she said. Adults with lower income and education tend to have higher rates of divorce, while wealthier and more-educated Americans may be less likely to divorce.
“Unpartnered adults are about twice as likely as partnered adults to be living in poverty,” the Pew report said, at 17% versus 7%.
“There’s a lot of complicated moving parts,” she said.
Coontz said we might be seeing the effects of the recession play out in the past 10 years’ worth of data, including volatile incomes, especially among adults with poorer job and education prospects and more debt. This may increase people’s caution about making commitments, she said, but that isn’t necessarily a bad coping strategy.
“It can actually help if they are taking longer to live together,” Coontz said.
Women are earning more than they used to, relative to men, Coontz said, so marriage is no longer the embodiment of financial stability for heterosexual couples that it used to be.
Coontz said the question nowadays for many women — and men — is, “What’s the risk of taking my source of income and hooking up with a guy who might actually be a drain on me?”
Old married couples
The one group that is living with their other halves more often: the 65-and-above crowd.
Parker said this is partly because people are living longer, especially in a generation that is more likely to be married.
She said younger people “are waiting now to enter into partnerships … until they feel financially stable, but they’re losing out on the financial benefits of being in a partnered household.”
The Pew analysis cites research finding that “marriage causes husbands to be more successful on the job.”
“It’s not a causal thing,” said Coontz, who argued that new research suggests the reverse: that many people tend to get married as they start earning more money, “and it’s mostly accounted for by just the stage of life that people are in.”
“Maybe it’s time for us married couples to stop being so free with advice to our single friends and recognize that we have things to learn from them.”